The Instant Date Blueprint: The Unconventional Way to Meet Women & Create Real Relationships

WITHOUT Dating Apps, WITHOUT Using Your Status, WITHOUT Pretending You're Someone You're not.

You're Either Not Going on Dates at All...

Or You're Settling for Whatever You Can Get.

Stop relying on algorithms. Start creating luck in the real world.

In every other area of life, you CREATE outcomes.

You win at everything else. Why are you losing here?

Let's be honest for a second.

Just you and me.

You're on the apps. Hinge. Tinder. Bumble. Raya.

Maybe you even pay for premium..

You see these attractive women and wonder:

"When am I ever going to actually meet someone like her?"

You go out at night. Bars. Social gatherings.

But you're tired of that scene. You’re exhausted.

Maybe you even tried the run clubs. Private clubs. Networking events.

Hoping the "right environment" would make it easier.

You've probably watched those cold approach videos online.

Guys walking up to women in broad daylight.

Part of you thinks: "Maybe that works for them..."

But it feels like a waste of time.

Everything just feels... off.

You're just tired of everything

Because you feel like you're doing everything - but you're not meeting someone you actually deserve.

Then you see her.

Cafe. Gym. Restaurant. Street.

You feel that pull. "I wish I could just talk to her."

But it's not even a possibility in your mind.

So you go back to swiping.

Another year goes by. And another one.

You pretend everything is okay. 

You pretend you're fine being by yourself. 

That you don't need to find your dream partner. 

That occasionally meeting someone is enough. 

But deep down? You're scared. You're desperate. 

You look around and see other guys who just... got it. 

They're in relationships. They're happy. 

And you feel like a failure. 

Because you haven't cracked the one part that matters most. 

You tell yourself: "When I have more time..."

But you had time to swipe for an hour last night.

You had time to scroll LinkedIn.

You had time for that networking event that went nowhere.

You have time. You just don't have a system.

Meanwhile, you killed it everywhere else.

School. Career. Money.

You can win at almost anything.

Except this.

Here's what's actually happening: In every other area of life, you CREATE outcomes.

Career? You execute and make it happen.

Fitness? You hire a trainer and grind.

Business? You test, iterate, win.

You create luck.

But with women?

You're swiping and hoping she swipes back. Going to bars and hoping she notices.

Joining run clubs and hoping you meet someone there.

You're hoping to get lucky instead of creating luck.

And you hate that feeling.

Because you're not built to hope.

You're built to create.

You look around:

"Why have I worked this hard and I can't even get a date with a woman I actually want?"

The LIE you were sold

"Get the money, then the power, then the women."

You've seen your MD. Your boss. The founder.

Divorced. Miserable.

Women like them for what they provide, not who they are.

More achievements don't equal more love.

Here's the truth:

It's not your looks. Not your height. Not your bank account.

It's because you're performing instead of connecting.

You've spent the last decade learning how to optimize.

Optimize your resume. Optimize your income. Optimize your body.

But you forgot how to just BE yourself.

You put on a mask so long ago, you forgot what's underneath.

I know.

Because I was you.

From the desk of Stephen Choi

To: a man who's stuck.

Subject: my breaking point

I was already two years into depression.

Not from one specific thing.

From this girl I thought was the love of my life.

Smart. Beautiful. Kind. Checked every box.

We dated for months.

Then she ghosted me.

I tried everything to get closure.

She never responded.

So I doubled down on what I knew: achievement.

Berkeley wasn't enough.

I needed more proof I wasn't broken.

Then I finally got my Goldman Sachs email address.

THIS would fix everything.

That she'd see "Goldman Sachs" and respond.

Proof I wasn't broken. Proof I made it.

She didn't even open it.

(Yes, I checked. Multiple times.)

I grew up between Seoul and California.

Just floating.

So I built a mask.

Berkeley. Goldman. Salesforce. MBA at London Business School.

Each achievement was armor.

Can't compete on looks? Compete on status. Feel invisible? Build a resume so bright they notice.

But when that email failed?

It confirmed what I feared:

"Maybe I really am fundamentally broken."

So I studied the problem harder.

Read more books. Hired more coaches. Learned pickup.

Then one day, exhausted from tactics:

Café. Gorgeous woman. "Out of my league."

Old me would've strategized: "When do I mention Goldman?"

But I was too tired to perform.

I just walked up. Said hello.

No agenda. No mask.

20 minutes later, we're on a date.

She didn't know about Berkeley. About Goldman. Nothing.

She was into me.

The guy I'd been hiding for years.

That's when I understood:

My credentials weren't helping.

They were the problem.

Every time I led with my resume, I was saying: "Don't look at me. Look at what I've achieved."

When you stop performing and start being real, quality women respond.

Not because you impressed them.

Because you created a genuine moment.

That was 17 years ago.

Then I did something crazy

Most guys hope to get lucky with women.

I decided to figure out how to CREATE luck.

Obviously I didn't start out like that.

I just wanted to solve my own dating problems.

That café moment?

It showed me something was possible.

So I got hooked.

I started coaching with other dating experts.

Traveling. Testing. Trying to understand what actually worked.

And I kept seeing the same thing:

Everyone was teaching tactics. Routines. Scripts.

Just teaching you to wear a DIFFERENT mask.

Maybe you've even tried cold approach before.

Followed some YouTube guru's lines.

It felt weird. Fake. Didn't work.

That's because you were performing again.

Different mask. Same problem.

But I didn't want another mask.

I wanted to be FREE.

Free to be myself anywhere.

Not just in "the right environment."

Not just when I had the perfect social circle.

Not just in college or at the right bar.

I wanted to be able to create connection ANYWHERE.

Growing up between Seoul and California, always feeling like an outsider?

Never really belonging to any culture?

I think subconsciously I was looking to figure out my own belonging too.

So I approached women everywhere.

Cafes. Restaurants. Streets. Trains. Metros. Airports. Malls. Bars. Nightclubs. Social situations. High-level institutions.

Day and night. Sober.

30 different countries.

Bangkok. London. Prague. Tokyo. Seoul. Warsaw. Paris. Bali. New York.

Everywhere.

I've been doing this for 17 years.

Some people ask: "How many women did you actually approach?"

Here's the truth:

After work, if I didn't have a date, I'd approach at least one woman. Every day.

That was my promise to myself.

On weekends? I'd go out and approach 10+ women a day.

Do the math:

25 approaches per week × 4 weeks × 12 months × 17 years.

Yeah. It sounds completely insane.

You might be thinking: "This guy's a robot" or "This guy's lost his mind."

I get it.

But for me, it became research.

I treated this like a PhD thesis.

I was obsessed with figuring out what actually creates connection.

I'm not saying this to brag.

I'm saying this because I was THAT desperate to figure it out.

That obsessed with being free.


17,000 approaches later, I found it.

The pattern. The structure. What actually creates connection.

Now I'm showing you the shortcut.

So you don't have to spend 17 years figuring this out.

There's a Different Way

You can meet women in real life and go on dates.

Not through apps. Not in bars.

Just... life.

You see her. You're drawn to her.

You walk over. Say something real.

If she feels it? You grab coffee right then.

20 minutes later, you're on a date.

"But isn't that harder than apps?"

Here's the thing:

Apps FEEL easier because you're sitting at home swiping.

But you have zero control.

Let me tell you what's actually happening on her side:

That attractive woman you just swiped on?

She gets 800-1,000 swipes. Per day.

I tested this with my girlfriend and female friends.

Created profiles. Watched what happened.

Thousands of matches in 24 hours.

They got overwhelmed and stopped checking.

Most attractive women use apps for:

Ego validation ("okay, men still think I'm beautiful") Instagram followers (thirsty guys boosting their likes) A dopamine hit when they're bored

Then they never respond.

The math is against you.

Even with perfect photos. Even with a dialed profile. Even with great opener messages.

You're competing with 1,000 other guys that day.

You created everything else in your life.

Career. Fitness. Money.

You didn't HOPE for results.

You went out and CREATED them.

But with apps?

You're swiping and hoping she swipes back. Hoping she responds. Hoping she's actually interested. Hoping she shows up.

You're hoping to get lucky.

Real life? You're creating luck.

You see her. You approach. You know in 30 seconds if there's something there.

If yes: You create a date right then. If no: You move on immediately.

You're not hoping. You're creating.

You're not competing with 1,000 guys she'll never respond to.

You're the only guy who had the balls to actually talk to her.

Plus, the quality is completely different.

Apps = whoever's bored swiping for validation.

Real life = confident women out living life who are selective and actually interesting.

These are the women you actually want to date.

This Works for Guys Like Us

Jon — Italian-Luxembourgish trader, suicidal after a breakup

→ Created his dream relationship in 2 months

Charles — Introverted Amazon engineer, thought being Asian in Seattle was his problem

→ 10 instant dates in 10 days (we filmed it)

Brenden  — Virgin Indian Canadian consultant, created 2 instant dates in 7 days even though he never approached anyone before

→ Attracted a Miss World contestant

Michael — Divorced Russian American consultant in London, 37 → Married to his dream woman after 9 months. Just had his 2nd child.


Different backgrounds. Same transformation.

They stopped trying to prove their worthiness.

Started expressing who they actually are.

These women saw them. Not their resumes.


They got the same framework you're getting for $27.

But they had me in their ear during Residentials.

You can practice on your own with the blueprint.

Or you can do it with me in real-time.

Either way, you finally have a system that works.

The Instant Date Blueprint

The system for creating luck instead of hoping for it.

$27 for everything below.

Let me be clear:

This is the EXACT system I teach in five-figure Residentials.

Same framework. Same principles. Same approach.

But here's what makes this different from every other dating course:

You're not learning lines to memorize.

You're not learning tactics to copy.

You're not learning to be someone you're not.

You're learning a GENERAL STRUCTURE.

A framework you can make your own.

But this isn't fluffy theory.

This is a structure based on REAL LIFE.

You see me creating dates right in front of the camera.

With multiple women.

You see the full breakdowns—what worked, what didn't, why.

You see my clients who came to Residentials.

Against all odds, they create dates.

One of them: an entrepreneur who had never dated women and was a virgin.

He created multiple instant dates during our residential.

Another: a software engineer who hadn't dated in years.

He learned the framework and created dates.

You'll see how they did it.

So you learn from different angles.

Different backgrounds. Different situations. Different approaches.

Not theory. The real thing.

Here's what you need to understand:

I went on this crazy 17-year journey.

17,000 approaches across 30 countries.

Worked with every expert. Tested every tactic.

Spent hundreds of thousands of dollars and countless hours figuring this out.

You're getting the core essence of everything I learned.

The entire framework for creating dates organically, naturally, anytime, anywhere with high-quality women.

Nothing held back.

The same system I use.

The same system I teach in five figure Residentials.

The difference?

$27: You get the system. You practice on your own.

Residentials: You get the system + ME in your ear, training you in real-time.

But the framework? All here.

17 years of testing. 17,000 approaches. Multiple coaches. Every tactic.

Synthesized into one system.

So you don't waste another decade trying thing after thing.

This is the shortcut.

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What's inside the Instant Date Blueprint

Part 1: The 4 Levels (Live Field Footage)


Watch the 3-hour evolution from warm-up to real connection on the streets of Bangkok—unscripted, unedited, awkward moments and all. You’ll see rejection, dead ends, awkward starts… and the truth: when you stop performing and start expressing, rejection becomes a filter, not a threat. The payoff? An instant date built in real time, from first “hi” to close. Nothing hidden.

Part 2: Instant Date Breakdowns

Select instant dates from me and my clients.

Different settings: 

-Street

-Cafe

-Mall

I break down exactly what's happening.

Not overwhelming analysis.

Just enough so you can implement right away.

You'll see how they did it.

So you learn from different angles.

Different backgrounds. Different situations. Different approaches.

Part 3: The Vibe Codes

The codes you need to create this anywhere, anytime.

After 17,000 interactions, here's what actually works:

• Why "confidence" is bullshit (and what to do instead) • How to be present (instead of in your head)

• The frame that removes fear of rejection

• Why she should qualify to you (not the other way)

• How your "disadvantages" become strengths

• The Instant Date Framework (conversation to coffee in 20 min)

• The Outsider Advantage (turning "different" into magnetic)

BONUS: Dating Blindspot Diagnosis

30-minute live call. Free for the first 30.

The Instant Date Framework - A proven path from first hello → real date, fast.

3 Real Instant Date Breakdowns - Watch the analysis from street, mall & café.

The Third Culture Advantage Guide - Turn different into your magnetic edge.

You owe yourself this. No waiting. No theory. Just results.

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FAQ


"I'm already successful. Why do I need this?"


Because you know how to create outcomes everywhere else.

Career? You execute. Fitness? You grind. Business? You optimize.

You don't HOPE. You CREATE.

But with women, you're swiping and hoping.

That feeling of being passive? No control?

You hate it.

Because you're not built to hope.

You're built to create.

This teaches you to apply your achievement mindset to dating.

Stop hoping. Start creating.


"Do I have to approach women on the street?"


You get to.

But this works everywhere—cafes, bookstores, parks, gyms, malls.

The street is just one of the most intimidating environments.

Because there's no shared context at all.

I'm showing you what's possible in the most intimidating situations.

But in the product itself?

I show you how to do this in cafes, indoor spaces, malls.

Anytime. Anywhere.

The idea is to teach you how to capitalize on any situation.

Doesn't matter where you're at.

Day or night. Sober or not.

What country you're in. What age you are.

Anytime. Anywhere.

This is: you see someone in a bookstore. You're drawn to her.

You walk over. Say something real.

She either vibes with it or she doesn't.

If she does: You just created a moment that might turn into something real.

If she doesn't: You didn't waste weeks texting to find out there's no chemistry.

Either way, you lived.

You didn't hide behind a screen.


"Won't women think I'm creepy?"


Not if you're being genuine.

Women think you're creepy when you're: → Being dishonest (pretending you're "just asking for directions") → Being pushy (not reading her signals) → Being performative (trying too hard to impress)

But when you're real?

When you see someone, feel drawn to them, and express that honestly?

That's not creepy. That's human.

Every woman I've talked to says the same thing:

"I wish more guys would just come talk to me in real life. Apps are exhausting."

You're giving them what they actually want.


"What if I live in a small city or somewhere this seems impossible?"


If there are women there, this works.

I've had clients do this in:

-Small Texas towns

-Conservative Middle Eastern cities

-Quiet Scandinavian suburbs

The framework works anywhere there are humans.

Cafes. Bookstores. Grocery stores. Parks.

You don't need a "dating scene."

You need women living normal lives.


"What's the difference between this and your Residentials?"


The framework is the same.

The 4 Levels. The Vibe Codes. Everything.

The difference is implementation:

$27: You get the system. You watch the footage. You practice on your own.

Residentials: You get the system + me. We approach together. I'm in your ear during approaches and dates. Real-time feedback until you internalize it.

Think of it like:

$27 = The training program

Residentials = The training program + personal trainer in the gym with you

Some guys take the $27 program and run with it.

They practice. They figure it out. They get results.

Other guys want the intensive support.

They want to compress 6-12 months of trial and error into 1-2 weeks.

That's Residentials.

Either way works.

Do you want to figure it out yourself, or do you want me there with you?


"What if I'm [insert perceived disadvantage here]?"


Short? Asian? Introverted? 40+? Not rich yet?

Good.

I'm 5'6". Korean. Used to be severely depressed.

My clients: American, British, Chinese, Japanese, Indian, Russian, Australian, Canadian.

Short, tall, introverted, extroverted.

Ages 23-57.

Developers, investors, consultants, founders, lawyers.

The framework works BECAUSE of your "disadvantages."

Not despite them.

When you stop trying to compensate and start expressing who you actually are?

Your differences become magnetic.

The women who vibe with you REALLY vibe with you.


"Is this just for instant dates? What about actual relationships?"


The instant date is just the beginning.

It's proof you can create connection in real life.

That you don't need apps or tactics or performance.

But the REAL transformation?

Learning to be yourself with women.

No mask. No performance.

Just you.

That's what creates real relationships.

Not the coffee.

The realness.


"Wait—Goldman guy selling a $27 course?"


Yeah, let's cut the bullshit.

I charge $27 because I don't want freeloaders.

I want men who are willing to take out their credit card and commit to an action.

Even a small one.

$27 filters out the lurkers.

The guys who say they want to change but won't even click "buy."

Here's what I actually care about:

We're living in this AI era where every connection is getting automated out of existence.

People feel disconnected. Lonely. No light at the end of the tunnel.

I spent 17 years figuring this out because I had to.

I wish someone had given me this shortcut at the start.

Instead of shopping across coaches selling repackaged tactics and different masks.

So yeah, I'm putting this out there for $27.

Because I actually believe in helping people connect on a deep, meaningful level.

That's my joy.

But I'm not inviting you to Residentials until you understand what Soul Game is.

Residentials are high-touch. VIP-level.

You live with me in London, Bangkok, or Bali for 1-3 weeks.

I'm in your ear during approaches and dates.

We review your tapes together.

That's $12K-$50K depending on what you need.

Not a lot of people can join because it's extremely high-touch.

I'm selective about who I work with.

This $27 blueprint shows you the system.

If you're a self-starter and can run with it?

Perfect. You'll get results on your own.

If you want me there with you in real-time?

Then we talk Residentials.

Either way, you're getting the exact same framework.

The one that teaches you to create dates with high-quality women.

Anytime. Anywhere.

Not by performing.

By removing the mask and being real.

You Have Two Options

Option 1: Keep hoping

1. Swipe on apps.

2. Go to bars.

3. Stack achievements.

4. Hope something changes.

5. Let another year pass

Option 2: Start creating

1. Learn the system.

2. Go practice.

3. Create your own luck.

4. Meet women in real life who actually excite you.

$27.

You're spending more than that on apps every month.

The question isn't whether this works.

The question is: are you ready to stop performing and start being real?

Get The Instant Date Blueprint

$27. Instant access.

Try it. Use it.

If it doesn't give you a completely different understanding of how to meet women—

And if you're not more excited about actually implementing this—

Email me.

I'll refund you and we'll talk about what's blocking you.

That's how confident I am in this system.

Because it's not theory.

It's what I've done 17,000 times across 30 countries.

And it's what my clients do every week.

Your turn.

P.S. — Remember the Dating Blindspot Diagnosis for the first 30 people. That alone is worth $500, and it will save you years of trial and error. But it’s only for the men who take action now.

Stephen Choi • Soul Game